Breakups are not always easy to cross, and we are not always ready to start a story again. So, how do you know if you are really ready to get into a relationship or just to meet someone? Will we be able to? So many questions that can arise when you want to embark on a new relationship after being disappointed in love.
Say goodbye to doubts and uncertainty and read this article specially written by the Sympa team to help you move on.
1. What if it does not?
It is normal to fear that the first appointment is not very conclusive. Often we have a hard time taking the plunge because we tend to be in the past again, not wanting to move forward and looking to the future. Wandering, going to the movies or having coffee with someone, even if only for an afternoon, can sometimes be useful. And if it does not work, what are you risking? You will have at least made the effort to meet someone, you are on the right track.
2. Living in the present
You have to tell yourself that the past is an apprenticeship. Imagine that your life is a book composed of several chapters and that you decide to start a new one. Will it be different from the first? Avoid making the same mistakes and do not let everything that has hurt you in the past invade you again. Make sure your new partner is looking for the same thing as you.
3. There is no point in going too fast
Take your time. You may feel stressed and begin to rush things, but it is best to take your time and enjoy this new love, taking into account the experience of the past. It is time to see this person as they are, not just as a transition.
4. Be proud of what you have done
If you made the decision to go out with someone, be proud. We are not all made to declare our love from the first day or start a new relationship. It may not work the first time, but do not take it as a failure, on the contrary. Confronting your doubts requires a lot of courage and this is how you will take your life in hand.
5. If you doubt, follow your intuition
The most important thing is to accept the fact that you can sometimes feel conflicting feelings. It is possible that you sometimes feel lost, but once again, it will help you better find yourself. At this point, you can ask your friends and family for advice so that you feel less alone and feel encouraged in this situation. Do not forget to follow your instinct, because only then will you be able to take the path in which you want to go.
6. Express yourself
It’s normal to feel a sharp pain when someone breaks your heart. But it usually persists because you continue to feel sorry for yourself and avoid contact with others. Before accepting the first date with someone, give yourself some time to get rid of your frustration and then you will be able to move forward: visit a friend you have not seen for a long time, find a new hobby, etc … It is essential to be in a good state of mind and filled with positive thoughts to start a new relationship.
7. Try to see the bright side of things
This advice is linked to the previous one. Do everything that makes you happy and allows you to discover the beauty of life. When we experience a break, we often tend to see only the negative, to grind black, when in fact, we just have to change air, be rediscovered. Why not visit an interesting place, like a museum, or take a walk in a park? By making small changes in your life, you will see a big difference and will understand that if sometimes it does not work … It does not always come from you.
8. Tell yourself that love will knock on your door
No need to force fate. If you have to meet someone, it will be natural because “everything comes to those who wait.” Well, in love, it’s the same thing. Be patient and you will see that one day, love will knock on your door.
9. If it does not work, it does not matter
What to do if you miss your first date? Nothing, simply! You can try to find someone else with whom you will probably get along better. To find out if this person likes you, here are some tips to consider:
- His posture: he is sitting, standing, legs crossed, arms crossed, arms open, distance?
- His expressions: a deep look? Shy? Confident? Was it a forced or natural smile? These little details also say a lot about the person.
- How long did the appointment last: the time of a meal? Time for a coffee? Did you go out for a walk after that? This may show that the appointment was obviously too short to get to know each other better.
- Second appointment: a number? Facebook? A way to contact each other?
Each person is different. Despite this, it is still possible to detect whether there will be a continuation or not. So do not rush and see what happens after the end of the first appointment.
10. Always be grateful
Whether the first appointment is a success or not, do not forget to thank this person for having spent time with you. After all, she has nothing to do with your heart problems and has accepted (just like you) to take her time to meet you. Remember that sometimes the best thing that can happen to you is to end a relationship, and instead of having a grudge, trying to remember the beautiful moments that you have experienced can also help you to better go through this period. You will see that this positive attitude will be beneficial for your next adventure.
Have you already had a broken heart? How was the next relationship? Have you been able to jump in easily? Have you experienced failure? Do not hesitate to share your experience with us in the comments!