Many women, especially young girls, often feel unsafe in their dating relationships. Sometimes our worst fears are justifiable, but it can also be easy to doubt our partner’s feelings because of our own insecurities or previous bad relationship. Fortunately, there are many signs that can help you understand if your partner really loves you or if he’s just using you for his own sake.
Buzzafter understands how confusing relationships can be, so we want to give you the best insight into how to determine your partner’s true intentions.
He loves you: he looks at you all the time
The songwriters of many romantic songs have understood well: the man who is really in love with you, will not be able to take your eyes off you. Many men have that special look in their eyes when their darling is in formal wear, ready for a romantic date. But if you notice that he looks at you with wonder and excitement when you do simple things , like preparing dinner or putting on your coat, he’s probably in love.
He uses you: he does not make you feel that you are special
It’s as if you were not different from the other girls with whom he was or his friends. He may constantly compare you to other people or show you no affection at all. And if you feel that you are one of many, he probably does not care enough about you to value you.
He loves you: He does not panic even when you expect it
We all have records and stories and for some people this may be the cause of a breakup. But if your partner knows a lot about your past, including moments you’re not very proud of and he’s still with you, he probably loves you more than you think. Accepting all the sides of another person, not just those who are pleasant, is the sign of a mature relationship and a sincere love.
He uses you: you feel guilty constantly
It seems like you can not do it right, starting with problems at work and choosing food for your cat at the supermarket. If you constantly feel that whatever you’re doing is not good enough, then it’s time to flee your relationship. There is nothing wrong with trying to help your partner become a better person, but these changes should be initiated by love and not by feelings of guilt.
He loves you: He is more aware of how his behavior can affect you
We all have our patterns of behavior and we still do not fully understand how they affect others. If you notice that your partner is becoming more aware of himself and is trying to behave so that you do not get hurt or disappointed, that’s a good sign. But do not forget that if something is bothering you or if you want it to work differently, it’s better to have a conversation and not expect it to understand on your own. Your man can not read your thoughts, can you?
He uses you: he disappears
You had something planned and he asks you a rabbit at the last moment. Or it takes a thousand years to answer your calls or messages. Yes, it may be busy at times, but someone who really appreciates you will find the time to call you. Such a person will want to hang out with you only when it suits him, and it will always be up to you to adapt.
He loves you: he notices small details that make you happy
We all like big things, but it’s the little things that matter most. For example, he remembers your favorite ice cream, a stupid TV show you watch when you’re sad, or the name of your very first pet. These things show that he cares enough about you to go beyond stereotypical things like flowers and sweets (but we still love them) and engage with you on a more personal level.
He uses you: he is never ready to compromise
Finding compromises can be difficult, especially if your relationship is new, but that’s the goal we should all focus on. Your partner must respect your opinion and be ready to find the right balance for you both to be happy. If he does not want to give up his “right” to decide everything, it is probably time to escape such a control relationship.
He loves you: he opens to you and expects you to do the same
We all feel vulnerable in our relationships, but it’s hard to build a solid one without sharing our thoughts and feelings. If he is willing to overcome the fear of rejection and be open to you about his fears and problems, he has faith in you and can see a future with you. And it works both ways: he is interested in knowing your true nature, not just the pretty veil you could wear.
He uses you: he manipulates you emotionally
He knows your strengths and weaknesses and tries to manipulate you to do what he wants. This type of relationship is unacceptable no matter what. If you notice that you constantly feel guilty or that your partner’s emotions dominate yours, it’s probably time to take a step back and evaluate what’s going on.
He loves you: he is ready to talk about your problems
While a good deal of emotion can be beneficial in resolving conflict and keeping your partner happy, screaming will not solve the problem. Once you’ve both finished being emotional, your partner should be ready to have a conversation to discuss things. Communication is the key to a strong relationship and a loving partner should be able to put his ego aside and admit he could have been wrong.
He uses you: he provokes you so that you make a scene in public or remain silent for several days
We understand that things can sometimes become too emotional, but a man who loves you would never humiliate you publicly by making a scene or make you suffer by staying silent and ignoring you for days. These behaviors can be a sign of emotional manipulation, an inability to control their emotions, or even a form of “punishment” for things you have done wrong. A man who really loves you will never hurt you, so if that’s not the attitude you want, then run away from that relationship.
Have you ever been in a situation where you felt that you had been manipulated by your partner? What were the signs? Share your story in the comments below.